Starla has helped with the MOPS at Grace for a while. She is now doing other things in life. Every now and then we get to see her. This was one of those days, where she shared some of her wisdom with us about living in the Margins.
Starla gave us some great wisdom about babies: Babies – not all babies are beautiful.
All babies are so sweet. Reserve the beautiful comment for the really beautiful babies.
Starla is married to Scott – 33yrs in June. They have 4 daughter 29-13, and are enjoying parenting and grand-parenting at the same time. Late in life baby don’t fret God knows what He is doing.
For those of us who think about making New Year's resolutions we find ourselves struggling in keeping those promises to ourselves. Starla does something a little different. She searches her heart and seeks out one word.
This year the word was - Intentional. After praying and seeking out the word, she then asks for God to show her how to live out the word for that year.
The topic Starla chose to talk to us about is Margin. For me it was very helpful.
If you want to get deeper into Margin in life a book by Richard Swenson ‘Margin’ is an excellent resource.
How many times do we find ourselves stating we are overwhelmed? I know I do often. I never seem to have enough time to do what I want to do. Starla explained we live outside of the margins too much in our lives.
We on overload in our lives much of the time.
Examples of overloads:
Activity – busy schedules (this kind of overload takes away the pleasure of anticipation.)
Choice overload – a grocery store can have at least 180 different kinds of cereals. No wonder we don’t want to go shopping. We have no liberated ourselves in choices. The choices have only become more difficult.
Commitment overload – we have a hard time saying no. We have too many relationships, to many things to do. Weather good or bad, we are overloaded on our commitments.
Debt Overload – debt overload creates stress on our families. We have gotten really good at living out of our means. Crown Ministries is a great way to get us out of debt overload. There is a way to be a slave to debt. Trust for God’s provision. Talk to Dee Peirce to find out more about how trusting in God can help with not getting into Debt overload.
Expectation overload – the affluence brings us more. We have to be more, have more? Yet we are unaware of how to be happy with the simple things in life. We are in want rather than in need.
Fatigue overload – We are aware that even our leisure activates are attacking our bodies, minds, and our relationships.
Hurry overload – We walk fast, eat fast, and are always on the run with excuses. The book ‘The Hurry Child’ has us discovering that we want our children to grow up faster than need to be. As Mamas we have to move more slowly. We were given children to teach us to appreciate us slowing down in life.
Media technology overload – Everything is paced at media speed, we don’t talk face to face – we e-mail or send a text.
Time overload – Ask Lil Cunningham at some-point about her fasting Facebook.
Possession overload – Everything we have owns us. We are suppose to able to own what we have with being content in our current situations.
If wanting some ideas and some radical adjustments to living beyond the wants and into the needs two books recommended by Starla are: Radical by David and Crazy Love by Chan.
We are the handiwork of God.
Isa 43:7
We are created for God’s glory. How do we glorify Him in our lives?
Some great ideas to help us;
Use dry erase markers and make statements on mirrors and windows. Write a word, a verse, or something meaningful to a spouse, child, friend who might be in your home.
Saint Francis of Assisi states “Just live what you Believe.” If we followed the ideal of St. Fracis then our lives would be a good balance of living with-in the margins. Ever asked yourself what is truly important to you? This is a good way of living within the margin.
Have wide spaces around the words. Allow the margin to overflow, rather than filling up the page of life with things of have to do….We are able to live in the Margins.
It is okay to cut back, slow down and to be choosy in what we do. We need to be able to be available to love our family first.
We want to be available to those we don’t know, we want too and we need to have orderly life for us to do things well. We have nothing to give to those we love, until we things right within inside ourselves.
Remember as Moms we need to take the time and recharge too.
Recharging – it is a great idea…as for many of us the big questions is “HOW?”
Recharging is going to be a lot of different things…we need to recharge spiritually, physically, emotionally.
Spiritually:
90.7 at 3:05 Dr. Randy is a great way to listen for a few minutes.
Focus on the Family
Read the Bible….set a goal for one chapter
Emotionally:
You care for your spouse – love your husband.
Find things you enjoy.
Make something and make time for your project.
Physically:
Walk
Find some sort of exercise that is enjoyable.
Create a home that is a work of art – safe, inviting a place that is home to others.
How do we practically recreate?
1 We have to learn to say no
2 We have to learn to regain control of our lives and schedules.
3 Place God at the center of all things – learn to focus on people as well as things.
4 Trying to solve the problem of imbalance or we will continue to be in an unbalanced state of mind.
5 Accept the no given to us by other people.